Thursday, February 28, 2008

One third of Ethical Slut

I've gotten about a third of the way through The Ethical Slut. I'm finding it informative, if a bit elementary at times. For instance, it's good to know that their audience has much to learn from the bisexuals. Should I consider myself an advanced sexual oracle simply because I like a little cock now and again? You bet I should.

I really like the free-love tone of the whole thing. In fact, they claim that they'd have called the book "Free Love", if they'd thought it'd've sold as well. The vocabulary includes a great number of emotive and relational concepts. I suppose that this extends from their personal trip, which seems very much tied not only to getting your rocks off but also maintaining multiple stable, loving relationships.

It feels empowering. While it usually doesn't take me long to own my sexuality in a comfortable atmosphere, it always feels nice to have someone goading you on. They also discuss the sorts of enlightenment one might achieve from sluttiness. I can see how the book might provide guidance on how one could dovetail sexual adventurism into the sort of auto-reprogramming "taught" by RAW. However, if you aren't comfortable with introspection and that sort of conscious and willful manipulation of the mind, it really just comes off as pure flower power.

I don't know exactly to what extent my desires overlap with theirs. While I've certainly maintained for a while that I didn't view love as a finite resource, I do find that energy and attention seem limited. I don't know that I could do justice to two mates, let alone the complex tribes of mates that the authors seem to maintain. Mohamed, peace be upon him, capped the quota at four; he was much stronger than I. I can't even maintain more than twenty or so close friends. They do address that in the book by suggesting you buy a planner and schedule everything, including loving-bonding-time and sex.

I've never been able to keep a planner.

Sunday, February 24, 2008

Incorrect Accounting

I, in fact, came twice last night.

Estrella apparently does not remember the load I spent in her twat about halfway through the evening.

All around, a good encounter. It seems that I do remember how to suck cock.

I also picked up a copy of The Ethical Slut. It's recently out of print or something, as nobody can get it (including Amazon), but I'd seen it around in the past few weeks. But, each place I tried had sold out. I've tried every book store I've come across. Finally, at the other mall, in the other town, we found a copy at a Borders.

I'll have this devoured in a couple days, probably.

Second night with Roger

Estrella here:

So, it was our second night with Roger. He came over at about eight, and the talking commenced. I was slightly surprised with the ease that we all sat around and talked, as if we were old friends. Sex does that to you I guess.

After catching up on each other's lives for the past week, Oscar again made the first move of getting naked. I'm glad he has this piece of hedonism in him, because it makes the beginning of our night far easier.

We had Roger for four hours tonight, which doubles our previous encounter. However, there were some marked differences tonight compared with our last night with him. There was far less anal sex, and way more abuse of my pussy. We started out with Oscar giving Roger some extensive oral sex while Roger was kissing me. I was wearing a red with white polka-dots halter top and the red heels I wore to my senior prom. As I am the sub in our relationship, Oscar set forth the rule that I must keep the dress on until he deems it appropriate to take it off. I was thrilled to have a rule set in place by Oscar that Roger knew nothing about (ahead of time).
Roger wanted to take off my dress, but I informed him of the rule and he obliged.

We tried something new tonight that absolutely blew my mind. While I was riding Oscar, Roger came over and put on a condom. I thought he was going to penetrate my ass, like last time, but instead, he said he wanted to try double penetrating my already sopping pussy. He slid in on top of Oscar's cock, and the sensation was incredible. Having two cocks inside my tight cunt was amazing. Roger began fucking me, but I decided to take the reins and began bucking my hips. The sensation of Oscar's cock sliding up against Rogers was incredible. I came by crushing my clit into Oscar's hips, grinding away at his cock. Roger then pushed his cock into my ass and began pounding away. I liked his ass-fucking style, because he keeps the rather large head of his cock buried deep inside my ass, which then, in turn, slides against Oscar's dick.

Tonight, I got Roger off twice and Oscar only once, but Oscar's cumming was my favorite. After we had exhausted Roger on my pussy, Oscar fucked me from behind in one of my favorite positions: my legs completely together and Oscar mounting me like an animal. After pushing me deep into the couch, Oscar came with Roger looking on. Roger mentioned that we should tape our carnal sessions, saying "this is better than porn." While his suggestion is flattering, I'd rather not run the risk of having that kind of evidence of our kinky sex life on the internet (where it would inevitably end up). Alas, this does not satisfy the exhibitionist in Oscar, but it is one of the only times I say "no" in our sex life. Oscar understands, and while I would love to give Roger a tape of our affairs to beat off to, I'd rather not risk circulation on the web.

The only issue that arose tonight was Roger's inability to hold a full erection while putting on a condom. This only seems to be a problem after he has cum. It is another reason I am glad to have Oscar in my life, because he has a very fast recovery period. Although Oscar can sometimes be quick to cum (a trait I find extremely attractive, as I am the quickie type of girl), his recovery period is extremely quick, and he is able to fuck soon after cumming. I haven't ever had a problem keeping Oscar hard. Roger is a little bit more difficult to fluff for, but we had him hard for nearly four hours tonight.

I have to mention that I was almost ready to pull off the condom and fuck Roger bareback. However, I'm at a point in my life where stupid risks are not worth taking, and the frustration of a condom cannot come in the way of safe sex. My immediate satisfaction does not merit the risk of contracting a disease, so I'm glad that I had Oscar there to keep me thinking with my head and not my pussy. Besides, Oscar's dick was hard and ready to go, and fingers and tongues can sometimes work as well as a cock.

It was a fun night. I'm glad I had the opportunity to fuck Roger again, because it was fun to explore a new cock. However, tonight gave me even more appreciation (on top of the love that I already have) for the relationship, and the sex, that Oscar and I have on a regular basis.
Oscar is asleep now, but I'm sure he'll be happy that I posted to our blog of explicit details....

Thursday, February 21, 2008

Doing it again

Last night, I asked Estrella what she thought about having Roger again this weekend. Without hesitation, she said it sounded good to her. She keeps surprising me with her enthusiasm.

Estrella better watch it, or she's going to convince me that she's sincerely into swinging.

Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Those promised thoughts and reflections

I've given considerable thought to the emotional and psychological results of our mini-orgy. Objectively, the evening went perfectly--everybody got exactly what they wanted. Subjectively, I cannot call it perfect, but overwhelmingly positive.

During the scene itself, I was surprised to feel no jealousy or distress. In fact, those acts that most worried me beforehand (Estrella kissing and/or having regular ol' vag-pen sex with another man) seemed to turn me on the most. I suspect causality there, but I'm not sure in which direction. I was nervous beforehand, but a couple drinks calmed me right down, and the nerves seemed directly related to it being our first time.

I think the only thing that bothered me at all was Roger slapping Estrella's ass. While I certainly do the same thing myself, she consented beforehand, and seemed to love every minute of it, my immediate reaction was still one of anger toward Roger. Split second, lasting only as long as the echo of the smack. It was more of a desire to protect Estrella than anything.

We talked about kissing Roger before we met up with him. I said that I had little desire to kiss anyone but Estrella. She expressed a similar sentiment. However, when I returned from the bathroom at the bar, she asked me if it would be alright. I consented, and was relatively glad I did. My underlying philosophy is that if she's okay with it, so am I.

While this was my first time with multiple partners, I had given it some considerable thought beforehand. Furthermore, I've observed a number of couples in their swinging. It seems to me that arbitrary lists of outlawed sexual acts, rules merely for the sake of having "something that is just ours", will inevitably be violated. The result of this infraction tends to be a great feeling of injury on the part of the, uh, violated party. Since it seems to me that love has rather more to do with a lifetime partnership than it has to do with sharing a rimjob, I say toss the rules.

So far, the only rules we've come up with are: 1) condoms for everything but oral, 2) only while we're both there (or in the adjoining bathroom or whatever). We have a hand gesture for discrete negative responses to questions. I want to develop a bit more of a code for covert negotiation of another person's acceptability, but that's hardly a rule.

Only the requirement that we both be present restricts our activities. However, at this stage of the game, I certainly think it protects us from potential ruin. I have no interest in breaking this rule at the present time. And, I think I'd probably forgive Estrella, so long as she posted all the details here. So, I'm not concerned about potential fallout from breakage of arbitrary rules.

I've had three days at this point to think about Saturday. Nothing is cropping up. I don't feel dirty or revolted; not the slightest little bit of a puritanical, conditioned response. I find the entire memory pleasant, and have quite enjoyed thinking, talking to Estrella, and writing about it.

We've had sex several times since our encounter with Roger. It's all been quite good, as always. We've always had a kinky, rewarding sex life, so I didn't really expect that to change. But, there was some slight worry that sex without other folks might fall flat. It doesn't. Estrella is just as sexy and gorgeous lying back by herself as she is sucking some stranger's cock.

This blog is sort of a compromise between my exhibitionism, and Estrella's desire for the opposite. If I had my druthers, I guess I'd be posting lots of pictures and video. But, that won't happen. Instead, just a couple noms-de-plumes and some really raunchy prose.

First Time

Allow me to introduce us. I'm Oscar (obviously not my real name). I'm male; bisexual; mid twenties; a recent graduate in an engineering field. The buxom young woman to my right is Estrella (also not her real name). She's two years younger than me, straight, and hasn't quite graduated from school. We've been together for several years. We're to be married in a couple of weeks.

For the time being, I'd like to get this history down in print before I forget the details. I'll post my reflections and thoughts soon. Estrella says that she's interested in writing here as well, so you may well get her version of things as well.

We'd talked about swinging for a long time, mostly in the abstract. I've never found monogamy to have any inherent value, although I've towed the line of expectations and remained faithful to every lover I've had. Estrella seemed to understand my argument that a lifetime was a very long time to spend having sex with just one person. She also expressed a great deal of interest in seeing me get fucked. Like I suspect many girls do, she wanted to be doubly penetrated. She seems to have other fantasies that involve multiple partners, as well. But, I'll not put more words in her mouth, and let her discuss her fantasies herself.

On Friday, at work, I sent Estrella a text message asking if we could look for a man (or a couple) on craigslist to come over and play that weekend. To my surprise, she was downright enthusiastic about the prospect. After we got home, we trawled craigslist for a little while, responding to a few folks. We then decided to post our own.

Almost immediately, we started to receive a flood of messages. I've posted on casual encounters before, but it surprised me how much more of a response you get when you're offering sex with a woman. The response was even more immediate and heavy than if I'd posted in m4m. I found the thought of other men wanting my fiancee, in and of itself, very arousing.

Friday night didn't pan out, although we did have some really good sex while discussing what we wanted out of a frimp scene. On Saturday morning, however, we received an email from a very cute young man not named Roger. Roger had a cute face, a nice body, and a beautiful cock just the right size for my anus--that is, not monstrous. We exchanged photos, phone numbers, and a rough intention to meet, then went about our days' business.

At around 6pm, I called Roger on the phone. This was probably the most psychologically difficult part of the process. Neither Estrella nor I especially like talking to strangers on the phone. I'm sure I sounded nervous. Despite the nerve, however, I managed to make arrangements to meet at a gay bar for a couple of drinks at eight. The plan was to arrange for a hotel to retire to after the drinks.

Half an hour on the phone convinced us that there were no hotel rooms to be had downtown for any reasonable price. We decided to meet Roger and, if we decided he wasn't too creepy, just bring him back to our place.

We spent the rest of our time primping and preparing. I took a shower and shaved my face and balls. Estrella dressed, allowing me to make her decisions. I found it surprisingly exciting to help her look her slutty best for somebody else.

We beat Roger to the bar by about ten minutes. This was plenty of time for a drink and a bit of last minute encouragement. By the time Roger was there, I was starting to loosen up.

Roger arrived, and turned out to be even cuter than in his photos. He also turned out to be relatively articulate and educated. He seemed decidedly non-creepy. So, we took him home.

After getting him home, we sat around and talked for a few minutes. We discussed boundaries (there were no hard boundaries), and condoms (there were plenty of those, and we used them for all non-oral contact). Then, anxious to proceed, I informed Roger that I had no nudity taboos, and peeled. Estrella and Roger immediately followed suit. After getting naked, I smoked while Estrella fulfilled Roger's request to wear a pair of heels. She doesn't wear them often, but Estrella looks absolutely gorgeous in heels--her calves and ass round out just perfectly when she's stretched up on her toes a bit.

While Estrella finished shoeing herself, I made my introductions to Roger's cock. It's a wonderful instrument: six inches long or so, as thick as two thumbs, and with a giant mushroom tip easily twice the diameter of the shaft. I stroked it lightly while Roger touched mine and commented that he'd never had an uncut cock before.

I led Roger to the couch, pushed him down on it, and sat beside him. I'd just started sucking his cock when Estrella joined us. Roger's cock was delicious; the first I'd had in over two years. One thing that made him so fun to suck was that he seemed to constantly bubble with precum. Every bob of my head rewarded me with a new droplet.

Estrella and I took turns sucking Roger's cock for a few minutes before she made a move for mine. I slid up on the couch so that she could blow Roger and me at the same time. She rather seemed to like licking two dicks at once. This didn't last long before Roger announced he wanted to fuck us, and it was time to get our holes opened up.

I wanted my ass plugged first, so enthusiastically hopped off the couch to start stretching out with a buttplug. As I wandered off to the bathroom to finish that up, I head Estrella say, "So, while he's gone, do you want to have sex with me?" I just about came right there. My fiancee offering herself to some other dude, on my couch, while I was in the bathroom.

I came back to find Roger buried balls deep in Estrella's cunt. I sat down and had a smoke while I watched them fuck. I'd never seen Estrella from this angle. I've never seen her more desirable, sexy, alluring, beautiful, or attractive than while she had her neck arched, her blond hair spread around her head, her mouth slightly open and her eyes closed. Since I wasn't directly involved, I had the opportunity to really savor the sounds she makes when she's fucking: tiny high-pitched grunts, and little squeaks.

After a few minutes of that, I decided I needed some dick. I expressed that desire to the company, and Roger pulled out of Estrella while I got into position. I hadn't been fucked with a real dick in a long time, and so I went for a nice and easy position. I got on my knees and elbows, with my ass wagging in the air. Roger didn't waste much time before he pressed his cock into me.

He fucked me gently for a little while until I began meeting his thrusts with my own. At that point, he picked up the pace. He fucked me for a few minutes before I decided my ass needed a break. He pulled out and we sat around chatting for a few minutes.

After my butt had relaxed, I told Roger that I'd like some more. I don't remember who it was, but somebody suggested that I fuck Estrella while Roger had me. Since this is my Number One Fantasy, I immediately agreed.

I put Estrella on her back, and then climbed between her legs. After I was in her puss, Roger got in position and slid into me. Immediately it felt awesome, having the smooth, wet grip of Estrella's cunt around my cock, and a big, warm dick plugging away at my prostrate. The rhythm was difficult to get right, and I think will require rather more practice. This time around, Roger set the rhythm, essentially fucking Estrella through me. I would have preferred a rhythm that had my cock sliding out of Estrella at the same time Roger slid out of me. But, the sensation was too excellent to interrupt with discussion. After only a few minutes of that treatment, I came inside Estrella.

Roger and I got cleaned up, and Estrella mopped a big glob of cum out of her snatch. We talked and smoked for a few minutes before we decided that it was about time to double fuck Estrella. I continued smoking while Roger and Estrella went back to the couch.

They started with Estrella blowing Roger. But, that only lasted a couple of minutes before Roger swung her ass around and went down on her. I only realized it the day after, but he ate my cum out of her. They sixty-nined for a few more minutes before Roger decided he'd like to fuck her. He initially went for her pussy, but found that wet and open already. He changed his mind and, after checking with me for consent, slid into her ass. He fucked her ass for a while before I decided it was time for me to get involved.

Since they were already fucking doggy style, I simply slid under Estrella to get my cock in. I managed to accomplish this without Roger and Estrella disengaging. As I pressed into her, she gasped. I was surprised to find that I could actually feel Roger's cock through Estrella's partition; it wasn't just a porn-story conceit. Almost immediately after I'd gotten inside, Roger resumed his fucking.

I have absolutely no idea how long we fucked Estrella. I saw and felt her cum at least three times; she claims five. But, eventually, she got tired and asked us to stop.

We took another break, after which Estrella and I decided it was time to take care of Roger. Estrella demanded that I choose who and how Roger fucked. I told him to take her pussy.

He put her on her side, and entered her from behind. Meanwhile, I stuffed my dick in her mouth. I eventually decided that I was more entertained by paying attention to her fucking than to getting head, so I pulled out of her mouth and devoted my attention to absorbing the scene and running my hands along her body.

After a while, Roger pulled out of Estrella's cunt, whipped off the condom, and jerked off. He sprayed cum all over Estrella, and I rubbed it in to her tits. I didn't expect to have such a strong, positive reaction to somebody cumming on her. But, that was nearly as hot as any of it.

We let Roger get cleaned up, and then asked him to leave. I wanted him to stay and play a little while longer, but Estrella was completely fucked out and just wanted to collapse. After he left, we talked about what had happened and attempted to process it. When she told me what it was like during the DP, I found myself masturbating furiously. I came all over myself just as she was telling me how thin and delicate the partition was between her ass and cunt.

Next post will be my analysis and reflections on this incident. They're mostly formed already, but I want them textually separated from the history of the event itself.